Life Script, Scenes

Yes, But

In Transactional Analysis approaches to personality development, a person's Life Script may be compared to a good novel or movie. There are colorful characters, an interesting plot, dramatic dialogue, and unforgettable scenes. Especially with movies and plays, sometimes the dialogue and scenes are rehearsed over and over,

not only on the stage or in front of the camera, but also in the minds and private moments of the actors.

Although it is usually neither productive nor entertaining to watch a movie or read a book backwards, it can be very helpful to go back over the Life Script in Transaction Analysis. This is because the Life Script is written quite early when infants and children are highly dependent on parents and adults who may be acting and communicating out of harmful and destructive Parent and Child ego states, rather than a more mature and rational Adult ego state.

In other words, the muse inspiring the life script written by the child may be singing badly off key, so scenes, dialogues, and climaxes of the story may be grotesque, dark, and self-defeating. What feels like cruel and unavoidable fate may actually be a poorly conceived personal identity that gravitates to predictable scenes, relationships, and dialogues of despair.

The scenes and drama triangles one finds themselves entangled in today may merely be the mimicking of dramatic scenes and triangles they witnessed in formative years, and thus incorporated into their own life script and story. Predictable scenes and dialogues have been observed and catalogued through years of Transactional Analysis research and study.

Eric Berne's bestselling book, Games People Play colorfully captures some of the more typical scenes and enmeshed dialogues people embroil themselves in. "Look how hard I've tried, "I'm only trying to help", and "why don't you, yes but", all follow predictable scripts, scenes, and transactions.

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