In the Transaction Analysis theory on Life Script development there is often a mention of what it is called a "Life Position". This idea refers to an individual's feelings on life, that is most commonly unconscious, and that has a direct effect on how exactly this particular person goes about interacting with the people around him.
As one could probably understand immediately, this is probably one of the most important aspects in how we are influenced by our Life Script in our adult life since it deals directly with our relationship to other people. Having a defective Life Position could get someone to be unable to find his happiness in life, be it with regards to their love-life or careers.
The messages delivered by these four states or Life Positions are in regards to what stance the concerned individual and his partner take in their dyadic transactions. The Life Positions are as follows: "I am not OK, you are OK", "I am not OK, you are not OK", "I am OK, you are not OK" and "I am OK, you are OK".
As it is clear now, the influence of the four states on our lives and ability to connect to others is tremendous since it deals with how exactly we make the people around us and our own selves feel. While the ideal Life Position is for both of the partners to feel OK, any other Position could eventually damage our relationship to the world.
That is to say it is not acceptable for any of the partners to feel unwell, and a truly good Life Position would be one in which both have reasons to enjoy each other's company, be it on social ground or career-related issues. In order to surpass any undesired Life Position and getting to the state where everybody is OK we need to focus and self-coach ourselves out of the undesired state to one that can get us what we desire and deserve in life.
