Self-Coaching, Transaction Analysis
As childhood life scripts are formed by the age of 5 or 6 years old, and certain aspects originate in infancy, our family dynamic plays a large part in our own personal life scripts. The ideal situation is where all members of the family are loving, with many positive attitudes being formed. The worst is when all members are unloving, with various combinations of loving and unloving possible.
• Start drinking alcohol as a teenager. Have a series of dead end jobs, frequently getting fired for bad attitude, poor attendance or drunkenness. Experience a string of failed relationships. Die young from drunk driving or middle-aged from alcoholism’s physical effects.
However, such a generated life script does not supplant an existing life script. They simply exist side-by-side. The mind can accommodate many different and contradictory beliefs simultaneously. The old life script will still be there although you may be less aware of it. And any self-defeating that the new script was designed to replace may persist.
Making decisions based on fear commonly results in the wrong decision being made. This is why demagogues create a climate of fear before presenting a solution to the crowd. In a calm, logical debate, the idea would be shot down due to the risk, the cost or the morality. In a worried frenzy, the offered solution is accepted with little thought at all because it will make the problem and, hopefully, the fear go away.
Transaction analysis is a theory presented by Eric Berne to help people to improve their interaction or communication which he calls transactions. It aims to improve the transactions by providing an insight into the personality structure of every individual which Berne has explained through his ‘Parent-Adult-Child’ model (PAC).